• About Us

  Daniel O’Hare was 19 years of age when, without any warning, he took his own life. He had no previous history of mental health problems nor had he shown any outward signs of his intentions.

  Daniel was a normal 19-year-old young man, who was extremely popular and well known in his local community. He had a large amount of good friends and a family that loved him dearly.

  He loved football, spending time with friends & socialising and also had a job managing a family on-line retail business.

  To this day his family remain devastated by their loss and still are no nearer to understanding Daniel’s choice of action on that day.

  

  
  

  Daniel’s brothers Matthew & Ben along with his cousin Sarah (then aged 10, 5 & 13) hoped to do something positive and try and prevent a family suffering a similar experience. They wanted to create a lasting memory to Daniel and created the idea of If U Care Share.

  They developed a wristband that carried our message “If U Care Share” to encourage young people to “SHARE” problems instead of burying them within.

  Due to receiving support from a family friend (Suzanne), who was a Samaritan, the children started to raise awareness for this organisation and eventually raised over £48,000, which was utilised on young peoples projects within the Samaritan’s North East region.

  Now the IUCSF is a Charity (Reg Charity Number 1142001) in its own right.

  It has 3 aims: Prevention, Intervention & Support of bereaved by suicide.

    

   

  

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• Useful Contacts

  Where do you turn to "Share"? well we would like to try and help you by giving you as many options as we can. See below for links to specialist organisations that can provide support and guidance.

   

   

  

   

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

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• Supporters

  Micah Richards - England Football

  We are deeply honoured that Micah has elected for If U Care Share to benefit from part of the proceeds raised from his new MR2 clothing line. This will go some way to allow us to achieve our main aim of delivering lessons in Schools etc that talking can make a difference & that there is always a way.

  If U care share founders, Matthew (10) and Sarah (13) designed a wristband that carries Dan’s name & the message “If U Care Share” - this is the wristband that Micah now wears.

  As Suicide is now the one of the main causes of death in young men aged 15-28 years in this country, more needs to be done. This is why we are delighted & honoured to have Micah on board in order to raise the awareness of this issue amongst our target group.

  If U Care Share are also working on ways to support families affected by Suicide offering practical & emotional support and the opportunity to speak with others who have suffered the loss of a loved one to Suicide.

  We feel this is an exciting development for both parties and would like to wish Micah the best of luck in his latest venture. For press clippings about our partnership, click here. Visit Micah's own website using this link.

   

  Ross Pearson - M.M.A.

  If U Care Share are extremely proud to have the support of MMA & UFC Champion, Ross Pearson. Ross was a personal friend of Daniel’s, and became friends when they attended Park View Comprehensive School, Chester-le-street. Ross is aware of the devastation of losing a friend to suicide and now supports the campaign and try and encourage young people to remain emotionally well.

  Ross started out doing martial Arts from a young age, starting with Taekwondo and Judo.It started when his mum took him along to a class when he was a child as a way for him to channelhis energy. He then started doing MMA at the age of 17 after watching the early UFC shows.

  

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• Our Work

  If U Care Share works within three key areas:

  PREVENTION

  INTERVENTION

  SUPPORT

  Suicide is the leading cause of death in young men under 35 in the UK. It is the second biggest killer of young people in the UK, but is far more common in men than women. Around one million people are victims of suicide in the world each year. Most people who take their lives have no previous history of mental health issues. Attempted suicide can be a cry for help, and should never be ignored. The emotions involved for those left behind are complicated and overwhelming; and there is an absence of specific help offered to those in bereavement. These facts are the tip of the iceberg to the mounting reasons why If U Care Share's work is so vital.

  Click here to read about the charity's background story, or click the links under Our Work to find out what we're doing.

  Click here to read testimonials from the schools and football academies that we work with for our EAMH workshops.

  

   

  Who We Work With

  If U Care Share do not just work locally with those affected by suicide. We make our voice heard on a national level through key national groups working to lower the rates of suicide. Groups we're members of include:

  • National Suicide Prevention Strategy Advisory Group (NSPSAG) who meet twice yearly to implement strategies and discuss new research with the aim of reducing suicide rates.
  • All Party Parliamentary Suicide Group, another national body with the aim of lowering incidences of suicide. They meet quarterly in Westminster.
  • We were asked to give evidence in a call to evidence on 27th June 2012.

   

  • The Alliance of Suicide Prevention Charities (TASC-UK) The Alliance of Suicide Prevention Charities (TASC-UK) is an alliance of the leading charities dealing with suicide prevention and mental health issues. James Wentworth-Stanley Memorial Fund (JWSMF) trustee Clare Milford Haven, dreamed up the idea in 2010 as an initiative to encourage collaboration and prevent duplication of efforts and funding in the area of suicide research and prevention. From the initial meeting of charities in November 2010, TASC-UK was born - they now hold quarterly meetings to discuss common goals, current research and future actions. JWSMF is one of TASC's core members.
  • Suicide prevention groups in County Durham and Darlington, locally.

  It's important to us that we are a part of the core leading groups in suicide prevention and have both local and national representation.

   

  We're proud to work with the following great organisations and associations listed below.

  League Football Education

   

   

   

   

   

   

  Children and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAHMHS) NHS Co. Durham & Darlington

   

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  The Diana Award

  

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Latest News...

Fundraising Concert in Great Lumley - all invited!

Teenage Suicide Figures Rising in Sunderland
Shirley speaks out in an article in the Sunderland Echo today about her concern over mounting statistics that teen suicide is increasing in Sunderland. Figures show 15 men under the age of 18 took their lives in 2011 in Sunderland alone. Perhaps more shockingly, 49 young people were admitted to Sunderland Royal Hospital in 2012 after attempting suicide: an increase of 44. Women are still more likely to talk about their problems with others than men. For the full article, click here. 

"Exceptional" - EAMH feedback from Manchester United FC

If U Care Share received a letter of thanks from Man United FC for our Emotional and Mental Health workshop we ran with the young scholars. The letter, from Marek Szmid, said he thought "the openess displayed was very appropriate and encouraged others to come forward if they are having any problems." He describes the workshop as very professional and engaging. For more information see our news page.

If U Care Share nets grant from Cestria Community Housing

If U Care Share Foundation has been awarded £700 from Cestria’s Community Housing Community Benefit Fund, which supports local projects that meet important needs in the areas it operates.

The cash will help the foundation’s staff and volunteers to deliver awareness raising workshops in schools and sports clubs across the North East.

 http://www.24dash.com/news/housing/2013-02-27-If-U-Care-Share-nets-grant-from-Cestria-Community-Housing

New Statistics Show Suicide Increase

Latest statistics released from ONS for 2011 show an increase of 437 suicides in ages 15 and over compared with 2010. The UK suicide rate increased significantly between 2010 and 2011, from 11.1 to 11.8 deaths per 100,000 population. There were 4,552 male suicides in 2011, a rate of 18.2 suicides per 100,000 population, and 1,493 female suicides, 5.6 per 100,000 population. This week IUCSF have contributed to various media pieces around the increase; a full report on the latest statistics can be accessed via the ONS website here. This re-affirms the need for suicide prevention and bereavement services for those touched by suicide. Anyone who feels at risk should contact their GP or, in case of an emergency, the emergency services.

Click here to read an article published in the Journal on 5th February 2013 where Shirley talks about the increase in suicides and why If U Care Share's work is more relevant and important than ever.

Youth Mental Health Training Courses - Sign up now!

If U Care Share Foundation have been commissioned by NHS Co Durham and Darlington CAMHS Commissioning Group to deliver a number of Youth Mental Health Training courses, within Co Durham, over the coming year. The courses are open to individuals who live or work in the Co Durham area, who teach, work or care for young people aged 11-18yrs. Further details of the course content are given in this flyer.

The courses are free of charge and the dates are detailed below. To sign up please fill out this booking form and return to sandra@ifucareshare.co.uk 

If you find you can no longer attend, please let us know with at least a week's notice. Due to late cancellations we have had to impose a £50 cancellation charge for late notification or non-attendance. Thank you for your co-operation and we look forward to seeing you on one of the courses soon!

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